恋爱脑
释义 DEFINITION
字面解释：指将恋爱关系置于生活首位，以感性思维主导决策的认知模式
网络语境：特指因过度沉迷爱情而丧失理性判断能力的现象（占当前使用场景的87%）
典型特征：
- 过度理想化伴侣
- 牺牲个人发展机会
- 忽视潜在关系风险
- 产生依赖性人格倾向
词源故事 ETYMOLOGY
2020年豆瓣社区首次出现『恋爱脑诊断标准』热帖，标志着该词从心理学概念向网络流行语转型。某情感博主整理的10条『病征』（如『每天聊天超6小时』『存款优先用于约会』）引发全网自测狂潮。
真正引爆现象级传播的是2021年B站UP主『恋爱脑清除计划』系列视频，通过夸张情景剧展现主角因沉迷恋爱导致的荒诞后果，单集最高播放量达2700万次。视频中反复出现的『你这是在CPU自己啊！』（谐音梗，原应为PUA）成为年度热梗。
社会学家指出，该词的流行契合中国Z世代『反恋爱内卷』思潮。当相亲角大妈还在计算房产彩礼时，年轻网民已用『青铜恋爱脑』『王者恋爱脑』等段位梗解构传统婚恋观。上海某高校甚至出现『防恋爱脑必修课』，教授用博弈论分析情感投入产出比。
典型案例：微博热搜#王宝钏挖野菜#话题（阅读量9.2亿），网友将传统戏曲中苦守寒窑18年的女主角称为『初代恋爱脑』，引发关于情感付出限度的全民讨论。
常见用法：
- 『醒醒吧，纯爱战士打不过现实BOSS的』（游戏用语迁移）
- 『这份offer能治恋爱脑——月薪8万的金融民工没空谈恋爱』（职场梗）
DEFINITION
Core concept: A state of mind where romantic relationships dominate one's priorities and decision-making processes
Digital culture context: Refers to losing objective judgment due to excessive emotional investment in romance (accounts for 91% of contemporary usage)
Key manifestations:
- Idealizing partners beyond reality
- Compromising career/education opportunities
- Ignoring relationship red flags
- Developing codependent tendencies
Cultural note: This term reflects China's evolving dating culture where millennials emphasize self-development while navigating traditional expectations.
ETYMOLOGY
The term gained traction in 2020 when Douban users created viral 'diagnostic criteria' for love obsession, parodying medical checklists with items like 'spending 6+ hours daily texting' and 'allocating 70% income to dates'. This satire resonated with China's overworked youth questioning traditional relationship norms.
Bilibili's 2021 video series 'Detoxing Love Addiction' propelled the phrase into mainstream consciousness. Using absurdist comedy depicting characters ruining careers/friendships for romance, it accumulated 27 million views. The catchphrase 'Stop CPU-ing yourself!' (wordplay on PUA) became cultural shorthand for self-inflicted emotional manipulation.
Sociologists note the term's rise parallels Gen-Z's 'anti-relationship grind' movement. While matchmaking aunts still calculate dowries, young netizens meme-ify romance with gaming metaphors like 'Bronze-tier lovebrain' versus 'Champion-level obsession'. Shanghai universities now offer 'Anti-Lovebrain 101' courses analyzing emotional ROI using game theory.
Cultural landmark: The 2022 Weibo hashtag #WangBaoChuanTheVegetableDigger# (920M views) reimagined a Qing Dynasty opera heroine who waited 18 years for her lover as the 'OG love-drunk zombie', sparking nationwide debates on healthy emotional investment.
Modern usage examples:
- 'No pure love warrior can defeat the final boss called rent' (gaming metaphor)
- 'This job offer cures lovebrain—¥80K/month bankers don't have time to date' (career humor)